Quick Update

Been very busy the last couple of days working on a few projects.

A few people have sent me rather nasty emails that basically go along the lines of, 'what's with the sudden change in attitude towards sex'.

The answers are clear in my blogs, these people are just too stupid to think.

Casual sex is fun when you don't really care for anyone, and it's fun when you don't have anything else to do. But after awhile, you realize that sleeping with people you don't really know is not an activity that is particularly engaging. If there are no feelings, and the men whom you're already comfortable with as steady partners are better in bed, why even bother?

The other reason why I said sex isn't for playing around with is this. Someone eventually is going to want that extra step. It can be emotionally unhealthy, and your feelings for another individual is always accelerated because of sex.

Cupido asked me why I had been in Bangkok when he called me on Wednesday, and I said I'd been horrible to someone that loved me.

'Why were you horrible to him?'
'Because I was in love with someone else.'
'That's absolutely no excuse to be horrible to anyone. You should still be nice to people. Especially if they sleep with you. '

I suppose so. In most cases, I'm sensible enough to be nice to everyone, whether or not I sleep with them, but when feelings get involved in the equation, being nice is not enough. You have to know how to be nice, in just the way the other person demands it. And sex will always complicate situations like that.

I personally have no problems sleeping with someone I feel like sleeping with, and if the feeling is close to mutual. I.e, where do we go from after we sleep with each other and all that shit. With people you don't know, it's no big deal. It doesn't matter if you ever see them again. But then like I said, it would be just a waste of time, time I would rather spend enriching myself. But with friends... if I'm attracted and if the sex proves great and they don't bore the hell out of me, I'm fine with that. Only, what if they feel weird the next day. I never feel weird, but what if they did. What if they started developing feelings?

So you see, it's quite a little bit of a Catch-22 isn't it. Sexy strangers adn aqquaintences were great, but that got boring after awhile and turned into a waste of time. Booty calls are good, but usually, if I really enjoy sleeping with someone, I'm probably attracted to that individual beyond the sex, and vice-versa. And then things start getting complicated.

So how?

So stick with someone, or maybe two or three, but make sure you know where your feelings lie, and don't lead them to believe otherwise. Good sexual relationships I suppose, are all about being truthful to yourself and to your partners, and not abusing their feelings or playing games with their emotions.

It's probaly different for men, but as a species of the female race, I don't think there's really much point in sex for fun. Having the occassional fling or orgy or whatever can be fun, but I think I've had so much of that in the last two years, I'm just getting... *gasp* bored. But nonethelss, I don't regret any body I've slept with. They have all been an interesting ride, all puns intended.

(probably a whole lot of loopholes in my statement/s today, but I'm too exhausted to figure them all out.)

xoxox